How to increase self-esteem
One of the most frequently asked questions I have heard in the area of seduction and Self Help is: how to increase the self-esteem?
It is not easy to determine whether self-esteem in this case should be associated with personal development or seduction.
I chose to include this article in the second category because very often the reason that drives some people to look for an effective way to increase their self-esteem is to get noticed by the person they like.
Unfortunately, this is a rather painful point in particular for younger people – even if it is something necessary, school and family do not give way to our character to form independently.
We must always abide by the rules imposed by someone else, whether they make sense or whether they don’t.
Self-esteem is a topic particularly related to seduction – how many times have you heard that women like self-confident men?
Below you are going to read my tips on how to increase the self esteem.
What exactly is self-esteem?
What do women mean by self-confident men?
They don’t mean the James Bond of the situation, the one who always knows what to say and how to act.
Women like the man who knows how to show their vulnerabilities without fear.
Can you find a better definition of the term self-esteem?
Increasing self-esteem means not being afraid to show your weak points, expressing your opinion even when everyone is of the opposite opinion, acting despite the fear.
Fear is seen as the most insurmountable obstacle of people with low self-esteem.
We often tend to think that self-confident people are not afraid.
If we think of the greatest entrepreneurs or the historical characters, we cannot imagine them fearful.
However, everyone is afraid. The difference between a self-confident person and a person who should increase their self-esteem is that the former feels fear, respects it – but still acts.
If you notice, fear is a state of mind that you usually perceive in situations when you leave your comfort zone or when you are doing something important.
Considering that we should all leave the comfort zone at least once a day, fear indicates that we are on the right track.
Fear is therefore our friend if we manage to live with it.
Once this concept is assimilated to a profound level, the way to increase self-esteem is completely downhill.
Idealization against fear
This means the more time we spend thinking about how scary something is – the heavier the influence this something will have on us.
Remember, fear is our friend, and every time we meet it, it means that we are on the right path.
It means that we have left the comfort zone and that the situation that scares us in some way represents something important for us.
Meet your fears if you feel your legs shaking – it’s a feeling that lasts less than you imagine.
Do you know when you see a beautiful girl on the street or in a disco and you don’t know whether to approach her?
If you don’t approach it immediately what happens?
Think of all the worst scenarios that can happen:
- she is engaged;
- as soon as you approach her she starts shouting;
- her brother comes out from behind the bush;
- she is in a hurry;
- she is not very recommendable…
At that point, it will be impossible to approach, and you will see your opportunity to fade in front of you.
On the contrary – you see it and approach it with confidence.
The approach is very bad, she gets angry and goes away screaming.
Now, touch your face … Are you still whole?
Definitely yes, and this answer connects us directly to the next point.
Whatever happens, you will be up to the situation!
The moment you realize that whatever happens, even the worst, you will be able to find the best solution and get up – nothing can scare you.
To keep this advice on a practical level, keep these three points in mind that could change your perception of obstacles:
- When you are faced with an obstacle that seems insurmountable, think of all the obstacles you have overcome in your life. I have no doubt that you have already gone through something much more “frightening” – you’ve already gone through it once, there is no reason why you can’t do it a second time;
- Self-esteem is not built victory after victory, on the contrary. Self-esteem increases following falls – every time you fall, and find the strength to get up, add a small brick to your self-esteem;
- When you face a situation that is particularly troubling you, like a speech in front of 400 people, or a meeting with investors, it will happen that you don’t feel ready. Here, there is nothing wrong. To overcome similar situations you do not need to be ready, you need to grab the devil by the horns and simply act.
Repetition is the mother of skills
When you find yourself in difficulty, when you are afraid of not being up to a certain situation, read this article again.
When a bad day happens, we often tend to see everything black – our work, our dreams, our friendships.
Avoid falling into this trap, keep your head up and keep in mind that fear is your friend: the more times you meet her, the more confident you are on the right path.
You need to keep focusing on your goal and continue practicing. Day after day, you will be better and better.
When you will start to get good feedbacks and see the results, you will get additional motivation so you will play harder.
There is no magic pill to becoming self-confident in 24 hours, but hard work pays off!
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